Does it really make sense that men are not bad and women don't love them?

Does it really make sense that men are not bad and women don't love them?

It may be boring to blindly be a "good person". People, especially women, are always too variable. So if you want to catch a person's heart, you need to be "bad" once in a while.

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We always say that men are not bad and women don't like it.

in fact, from a scientific point of view, this is reasonable.

A lot of girls backstage clenched their teeth and said,  "I hate him, but I can't do without" .

A lot of boys also told me,  "I was very nice to her, but she still got back together with her scumbag ex" .

next let's see what a person's charisma can bring us.

or something that makes us love and hate each other.

what exactly is the definition of a bad man?

although most of them are sexy and handsome, they are slutty, arrogant and cold-blooded at the same time. But in real life, women prefer such men, which is part of the reason why novel films with themes such as Twilight, the killer is not too cold, or "cold and overbearing CEO" have become popular.

then why do women unconsciously fall into the whirlpool of "bad men"?

after a series of interviews and statistics, Carole Lieberman, a psychiatrist in Los Angeles, summed up the reason why women are infatuated with "bad men" as: father-daughter relationship. In his book Bad Boys: how we love them, how we live with them, and when we leave them, he explains that the crux of women's falling in love with bad men is that they do not feel "loved" enough when they are childhood. negative emotions such as inferiority make them feel that they do not have the ability to attract Prince Charming, so they finally "rationally" choose "Prince Frog". Of course, other environmental objective factors will also play a vital role, but fundamentally, it is the relationship between the girl and the father that plays a functional and accumulative influence on this phenomenon.

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and what are these so-called "other" original objective reasons?

  

"he is a good man, but he is so boring to be with him."    too predictable = boring?   

there are many kinds of bad men, but the pattern of good men is very single.

he is a warm man, he is very considerate and caring for his family, he will try his best to take care of you when you are sick, and he will be "at your mercy" when you are injured. Even his family and girlfriends around him praise them. But what's the problem?

when crises and difficulties occur, you can fully predict what he will do.

because in general, there is only one correct answer.

"good men" lack charm, and they often don't know what to say and what to do to make girls happy

but bad guys? Their cold-blooded and ruthless ways are ever-changing, and even if they are not to your liking, they will at best be judged as "angry and funny". More often, their bad ways are updated at any time to strive for improvement.

"he's so positive. I'm so tired to be with him."   


good = unreal?   

there is such a group of boys, they always show a kind of "root is red", upright and upright, it seems that you can never poke his weakness.

No weakness, no pain.

just as the personalities of good men tend to look unreal,

they tend to play "good" roles and are not good at "real" roles (Lucia, 2012).

Girls know better than anyone that Pokemon without weakness does not exist in the human community.

the repeated "armor protection" of good men will only make the girls more confused.


good = not "self-weight"?   


good men seldom set a bottom line because they are used to doing good deeds.

many behaviors and practices will make partners feel that they have no "principle" to speak of.


he lends money endlessly to a friend who never pays it back;

still maintains a good friend relationship with his ex-girlfriend and still responds to every request;

in short, he just can't refuse other people's requests.

to some extent, whether a person is good at rejecting others or not has a lot to do with his self-confidence.

the anxiety and uneasiness caused by rejecting others actually stems from the fact that they are worried about their own situation, and this kind of behavior that does not know how to pay attention to themselves has cyclically reduced their self-confidence.

good men look "weak", while "bad men" seem to have strong strength.

without self-respect, it is not attractive enough.

and which girl will fall in love with an unconfident man?


"He's a nice guy but he's too bad on bed."


good = bad in bed?


maybe you subconsciously find it difficult to relate a man's good to bad and sexual quality.

and it is worth noting that

everyone can paint a rough picture of the "bad man" in his mind.

in a 2007 study by the University of Michigan School of Public Health, women were asked to choose the "most masculine /male appearance" from a set of choices, while also asking them to choose the person they liked. Men with square jaws and high eyebrows are selected by most women as their "short-term partners", while men with obvious female features such as round faces and full lips are more likely to be "long-term partners", according to the survey.

next, the team PS asked two groups of male avatars, one with "masculinity" and the other with "femininity", and asked the women to talk about their guesses about the men's behavior.

the results were unexpectedly consistent. Most of the 854 subjects said that the group of men who were more "masculine" looked challenging, good in bed, bad, playful and interesting. On the other hand, the more "feminine" group of men seemed to be hardworking, family-friendly, would be a good father, and were more likely to provide emotional support.

many women who participated in the experiment said that it is often difficult for women to imagine that a good man has good sex skills at the same time. Regardless of emotional or marital stability, they are more likely to associate with the first group of "masculine" men.

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"he makes me feel very nonexistent."


good = do not need to be "modified & amp; repair"?   

Girls tend to think of each man as a different project or project, and creating a good project and a good project will satisfy their sense of achievement. And these are not the spiritual feelings that a good man can provide.

even if men eat instant ramen, good men cook a bowl of delicious noodles to open the pot, and bad men are the ones that take you five minutes to cook.   

A lot of girls will say, wouldn't it be nice for someone to cook ramen noodles for me and serve them on the table?

if you eat cooked ramen every day, you will soon miss the pleasure of cooking ramen.

further, falling in love with a "bad man" is genetic.

Maternal "tempering desire" will make it possible for girls to implement it on a "bad man", while a good man will bind you. There's no room for it.

it may be boring to blindly be a "good person".

people, especially women, are always too variable.

so if you want to catch a person's heart,

you need to be "bad" once in a while.