"I'm not afraid of losing you at all."

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there was a popular joke on the Internet not long ago:

Mao Xiaotong moved overnight and divorced Zhang Yuqi quickly.

these two textbook breakups have attracted a lot of netizens.

Why do people admire their decisiveness and chic so much?

because the shining domineering halo on them is the sense of security that everyone has been looking for for a long time.

in Lao Pao er, Master Feng once said, "what is the most lacking in the 21st century-sense of security." in such an era of selling anxiety, a sense of security has become the most luxurious thing. Like a "gift", everyone is talking about it, but most people don't have it. A lack of sense of security is a common state in everyone's daily life.

in the final analysis, a sense of security is not afraid of losing confidence.

the strength of Mao Xiaotong and Zhang Yuqi comes from their ability. Mao Xiaotong, who moved overnight, was able to afford to rehouse himself. Zhang Yuqi, who divorced quickly, did not have to worry about alimony even if she had a pair of twins.

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their sense of security is based on a solid economic foundation. Because of economic independence, do not need to rely on the other side, to have this kind of love to love, do not love to leave the strength.

I have seen many people who are not financially independent, and most of them are unhappy.

one of the female friends, whose boyfriend is a foreign student, who returned to China to start a business in a first-tier city, is seven years older than her and has a bright future and a considerable income. The family was so optimistic about the relationship that they got married with the envy of the people around them.

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after marriage, my husband said, "quit your job, I'll support you" and made my friend a happy stay-at-home wife. At first, it was very beautiful, but the good times did not last long, and my husband's career continued to rise, because of frequent social work, it was inevitable that younger and more beautiful girls appeared around me. Four years later, she found that her husband was having an affair, but she didn't dare to talk about divorce.

A friend doesn't dare to say something like "I'm not afraid to leave you". because she is used to this "pay-out" dependency, she doesn't know how to live without that person.

how many women hand over themselves in this way and rely on each other to give their sense of security? when everything is broken, they don't even dare to turn around.

understand that economic independence is the premise of personality independence.

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feelings are betrayed, but money is not.

Oscar Wilde once said that when I was young, I thought money was the most important thing in the world, but now that I am old, I know it is true. Money is a very important thing.

there is a sentence in the movie "True Love" that impressed me: I don't love money, but I know that money can bring independence and freedom. What I like is an independent and free life.

it's a good thing to have money. It gives you the ability to do what you want to do anytime, anywhere, without worrying about gain or loss. Even the "New Marriage Law" has begun to adhere to the principle of "who makes money, who is reasonable". Whoever buys a house is whose personal property and will not be divided in case of divorce. There is no complete guarantee of marriage, only the ability to make money.

but it is difficult to achieve financial freedom by relying solely on wages, not even inflation. There is a kind of income, called "after-sleep income". refers to not relying entirely on labor to earn money, even if you fall asleep, there will be income, which is a kind of asset income, which comes from investment and financial management.

so what you need to do is to enrich your financial structure after ensuring a stable income. You know, only with enough money can you bring a steady stream of sense of security.